As a healer, you need to be able to read people, not just what they say, but who they are. Intuitive reading includes noticing and understanding verbal and nonverbal hints, seeing their masks and facades that cover the real person. Logic alone won’t tell you the whole story about a person.
You must use other parts of the mind to be able to read non-verbal intuitive signals that people give off. To do this, first of all, you should release any preconceptions and emotional baggage you have. By this I mean to release old resentments, ego-clashes, personal wounds, grudges, jealousy and the like…., because all this baggage will stop you from seeing someone clearly. It is crucial to be neutral and objective to receive clear information without distorting it.
Here are three steps for reading people from my Intuitive Healing Practitioner course. They all require surrendering your logic mind and switching on your intuitive senses that maybe currently lie dormant in you.
The 1st Step. Observe non-verbal Body Language.
Scientific facts demonstrate that our communication consists of:
– Actual words but it accounts only 7 % of how we perceive the real meaning;
– Non-verbal body language accounts for 55 % of how we understand the real meaning of what was said;
– Voice tone takes 30 % of how we understand the other person.
Recommendations here is not to get overly analytical or judgmental but rather stay relaxed, feel comfortable, sit back, and simply observe.
In my Intuitive Healing Practitioner course I teach how to read the Body Language Signals in this order:
1. Observe the way they look
Appearance can tell a lot about people’s self-esteem. Are they wearing a power suit and well-shined shoes, dressed for success, indicating ambition? Jeans and a t-shirt, indicating comfort with being casual? A tight top with cleavage, a seductive choice? A pendant such as a cross or Buddha indicating spiritual values?
2. Observe their Posture
Posture talks about their confidence, self-esteem and courage. Do they hold their head high or down? Do they walk indecisively, shuffling, or crouch? – a sign of low self-esteem…Or do they stride with a puffed-out chest, sign of a big ego?
3. Observe how do they move their body
– To understand people’s likes and dislikes you should look at where they lean. Normally, we lean toward those we like and away from those we don’t.
– Distancing. People with warmer (people-like) personalities need a smaller personal space – the distance between them and others. People with colder personalities (private persons) need a bigger personal space, distancing themselves from others.
– Crossed arms and legs
This pose suggests defensiveness, anger, or self-protection. When people cross their legs they tend to point the toes of the top leg towards the person they are most at ease with.
– Hiding one’s hands
When people place their hands in their laps, pockets, or put them behind their back it suggests that they are hiding something.
– Lip biting or nail picking
When people bite or lick their lips or pick their nails they are trying to calm themselves. They feel under pressure or uncomfortable.
4. Observe their Facial Expression
Emotions are often written on our faces. Deep frown lines imply concerns or over-thinking. Crow’s feet are the smile lines of joy. Pursed lips signal anger, contempt, or bitterness. A clenched jaw and teeth grinding are signs of tension.
The 2nd Step. Listen to Your Body.
Your intuitive body can tell you many things about the other person. You just need to listen to your body feelings, sensations and maybe even unexpected pains and aches which you can pick up from the other person through energy. You can tune into someone beyond their body language and words. It is about listening to your gut, your heart and your throat – the places that collect intuitive vibes from others. These vibes can be perceived as energy currents, images, ah-ha moments, body knowing or visions.
How to notice the Intuitive vibes from someone:
1. Trust your gut feelings
Listen to your gut feelings, especially your first impression. This information is based whether you feel comfortable with a person or not. Gut feelings occur quickly and come in a flush. They’re your internal truth meter, relaying if you can trust people. But be aware that a person who has low self-esteem, who is uncomfortable with her/himself may receive distorted information about others.
2. Feel the goosebumps, Deja-vu moments – a recognition that you’ve known someone before, though you’ve actually never met.
3. Notice “ah-ha” moments about people which comes in a flash.
4. Notice the signs of intuitive empathy
Sometimes you can feel people’s pains and aches in your body. This is intuitive empathy. It feels as if you are in pain. But the pain is not yours – its their pain.
The 3rd Step. Sense their emotions.
Emotional energy is the “vibe” we give off. We sense it with intuition (not with logic). Some people feel good to be around; they improve your mood and vitality. Others are draining; you instinctively want to get away. This “subtle energy” can be felt at a distance from the body, though it’s invisible.
To sense other people emotions you can follow these steps:
1. Sense their Presence
This is the overall energy people give off. Is it pleasant or not to be with this person? Is the energy calming, relaxing or distressing? Do you feel like leaning forward to the person or backing off?
2. Look into their eyes and make eye contact
The eyes are the mirror of the soul. Look into their eyes and notice what energy they transmit. …. Is it the energy of care and nurturing? Or sexiness? Or calmness and spiritual depth ? Or the energy of being mean and angry? How much Love in their eyes, indicating a capacity for intimacy? Or do their eyes look restrained, hiding or dishonest ?
3. Sense the energy of their handshake, hug, and touch
Determine if the touch feels pleasant or not? Does a handshake or hug feel warm, comfortable, confident? Or is it off-putting? Are people’s hands clammy, signalling anxiety. Or limp, suggesting being non-committal and timid?
4. Sense the energy of their Voice and Laugh
When reading people, notice how their tone of voice affects you. Ask yourself: Does their tone feel calm, reassuring and pleasant? Or is it annoying, blunt, or obnoxious? Observe how they laugh. Do they laugh openly, from the depth of the soul ? Or they look tense and reserved when laughing?
If you are interested to learn how to intuitively read people in detail I am conducting an Intuitive Healing Practitioner course which is design to teach you these unique skills. Please read about the course here.
